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One of the possible results of the test “What toxic dynamic is in your relationship?”

Jealousy and possessiveness

Jealousy sets the pace of the relationship: questions, suspicion, checking, anger about people who pose no threat. It's often presented as proof of love, but it comes from insecurity and ends up limiting you.

Recommendations

✓You don't have to keep proving your innocence.
✓Talk about where the jealousy comes from; the insecurity is theirs to work on.
✓If jealousy leads to controlling your phone or friendships, it's no longer just jealousy.

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About this test

Toxic relationships don't all look alike. In some, control rules; in others, quiet contempt; in others, the highs and lows that keep you hooked. Naming the pattern is the first step to changing it.

Think about what your relationship is usually like, not one particular day, and pick the option closest to what you live.

Four dynamics, four ways of wearing you down

Control appears when one person decides for the other: where they go, who with, what they spend. Contempt, according to John Gottman's research, is the biggest predictor of breakups: mockery, sarcasm, eye-rolling.

The emotional rollercoaster alternates wonderful moments with coldness or punishment. That intermittent reinforcement is far more addictive than a stable relationship, which is why it's so hard to leave. Jealousy and possessiveness, finally, often pass for love but limit your freedom.

When to seek help

If you're afraid of your partner, if they isolate you from your loved ones or control your money or phone, it's not a communication problem: it's psychological abuse. Talking to a professional or a specialized service can help you see the situation clearly.