8 questions · 3 minutes · Free and anonymous
We don't all feel loved in the same way. Some people need to hear it, others need time, help, a hug or a thoughtful detail.
Choose the answer that feels most true for you, even if several apply.
Counselor Gary Chapman popularized the idea in 1992: each person has a preferred way of giving and receiving love. When partners speak different languages, they can both be making an effort without the other noticing.
Recent research suggests that most people value all five and that the key is responding to your partner's needs. Use your result as a conversation starter, not a rigid rule.
Not all narcissists are the same. Find out whether your partner fits grandiose, covert or communal narcissism (the hardest one to spot).
Take the test →Control, contempt, emotional rollercoaster or jealousy: find out which pattern repeats in your relationship (if any) through everyday situations.
Take the test →Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful: discover how you bond in relationships and why you react the way you do when things get close.
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