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The way we learned to bond as children often shapes how we love as adults: how much closeness we need, how we handle distance and what we fear in a relationship.
Picture each situation and choose the reaction that sounds most like you.
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and later applied to adult relationships, describes how we seek closeness and security. Psychologists Kim Bartholomew and Leonard Horowitz proposed four styles: secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive) and fearful.
Your style isn't a life sentence. Stable relationships, self-awareness and therapy can help you move towards earned security.
Not all narcissists are the same. Find out whether your partner fits grandiose, covert or communal narcissism (the hardest one to spot).
Take the test →Control, contempt, emotional rollercoaster or jealousy: find out which pattern repeats in your relationship (if any) through everyday situations.
Take the test →Words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service or physical touch: discover the way you most need to receive love.
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