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Every relationship rests on a mix of closeness, desire and the decision to stay together. Which one is strongest says a lot about where you are right now.
Think about your current relationship (or your most recent one) and choose the answer closest to reality, not to the ideal.
In 1986, psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed that love has three components: intimacy (closeness and trust), passion (attraction and desire) and commitment (the decision to maintain the relationship). Combining them gives different types of love, from friendship to infatuation.
The ideal he called consummate love has all three in balance. Look at your bars: the pillar that's lowest is often the one worth caring for.
Not all narcissists are the same. Find out whether your partner fits grandiose, covert or communal narcissism (the hardest one to spot).
Take the test →Control, contempt, emotional rollercoaster or jealousy: find out which pattern repeats in your relationship (if any) through everyday situations.
Take the test →Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful: discover how you bond in relationships and why you react the way you do when things get close.
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