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One of the possible results of the test “How do you handle arguments in your relationship?”

The Competitor

You defend your position firmly and find it hard to back down. You're clear and direct, but your partner may feel there's no room for their view.

Recommendations

✓Before replying, summarize what your partner said.
✓Ask yourself: do I want to be right or to solve this?

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Other possible results

🐢The AvoiderConflict makes you uncomfortable, so you postpone it, change the subject or leave the room.
🕊️The AccommodatorYou prioritize harmony and often give in to keep the peace.
⚖️The NegotiatorYou look for middle ground quickly: each gives a little and the problem is solved.
🤝The CollaboratorYou try to understand what's behind the disagreement and look for solutions that work for both.

About this test

All couples disagree. What makes the difference isn't how often you argue, but how you do it.

Choose what you would really do in each situation, not what you think you should do.

Five ways to deal with conflict

The Thomas-Kilmann model describes five conflict styles based on two axes: how much you care about your own goals and how much you care about the other person's. Competing prioritizes winning; avoiding steps away; accommodating gives in; compromising splits the difference; collaborating looks for a solution that works for both.

No style is always good or bad. The healthiest couples adapt their style to the situation, and save the effort of collaborating for the things that truly matter.